mtl008 Chapter 2861: The Battle of the Brick People! (5)
Chapter 2861: The Battle of the Brick People! (5)
Chapter 2861: The Battle of the Brick People! (Fifteen)
Batman seemed to find it hard to accept this, but suddenly he remembered the dark figure and asked, "Did he do this? I mean the me in another universe."
"He is perfect," Schiller commented. "You may think he is an emotionless machine, too dark to bear to look at, but he is not emotionless. He just knows that showing his emotions to some people is like handing a knife to others. There is no need and it will only hurt others and himself."
"He even restrained himself from showing too much emotion to those closest to him, because his coldness would cause much less harm to these people than the harm caused by his showing his emotions and causing them to waver and cause disaster."
“Is this something that is taught in books?”
"Obviously not. It's a lesson learned through blood and tears."
"Okay." Batman seemed a little helpless. He said, "I don't want to become a monster like that, but I will try my best to be more balanced. Do you have any advice for me?"
"Of course, I'll continue." Schiller took another sip of grape juice to moisten his throat, and then said: "After doing the above points, you can basically socialize like a normal person. Generally speaking, you become less annoying."
"But to be likable, or to use other people's genuine affection for you to satisfy your lonely heart, requires some more special skills."
“Can I be likable?”
"Of course, it's not even the superficial kind." Schiller said: "Generally speaking, there are different countermeasures for people of different identities, but I can tell you a few universal ones, and they correspond to the above countermeasures. They can be said to be an advanced version of the above behavioral countermeasures."
"Okay, I'll try to write it down in the... uh, Bat Social Handbook."
“First, guide others to confide their troubles to you instead of sharing their joys, and refuse anyone to share their good news with you instead of their bad news.”
"The method is very simple. When you ask him how he is doing recently, if he says he is doing well, you can say that he has lost weight and think that he is worried about something recently."
"If he obviously hasn't lost weight or denies that he has, then say that you heard his voice was a little hoarse, maybe he has talked too much recently. If he says no, then say that he keeps blinking and his eyes look a little dry, maybe he didn't sleep well."
"If that doesn't work, then walk over and pat him on the shoulder with an expression that says 'I understand you'. If he still doesn't say anything, then you can only offer some advice."
"It usually starts with a sigh and 'I'm not as lucky as you' and ends with 'I really envy your luck'. Unless the other person is a social idiot, he or she will usually tell you a few polite words about his or her recent troubles."
"Why do you do this?" Batman obviously didn't understand.
"Because for smart people, hiding one's shortcomings is a basic skill. Most people don't particularly want to attract attention, and some even hope that others think they are not doing well. Your guidance is fulfilling their wishes and giving them a reason to establish their own personality in front of the public. This will make them feel smooth and relaxed on a social level, just like a pillow when you are sleepy."
"And most importantly, not everyone has happy events, but everyone has troubles. Once the topic turns entirely to happy events, only a few boastful people will talk a lot, and the entire social occasion will become their world. Others will remain silent or remain jealous but keep their mouth shut."
"Jealousy is not an emotion that can be hidden. Once someone can't stand it, they will inevitably say something cold and mean, pouring cold water on others. Then a good social occasion will turn into a quarrel, and the atmosphere will be difficult to control."
"But if you get people to start talking about their worries, most people who don't want to expose themselves as heartless and ungrateful will say a few words of comfort. Even if it's just verbal expression, with some perfunctory words of comfort, at least it won't offend people, and it may even give people strength."
"But some people will take this opportunity to show off their achievements? For example, they will comfort others with a few words, or talk about their past..."
"Are you talking about you?"
"Uh……"
Batman began to frantically recall whether he had done this before. He swore that it might have been twice, or maybe three times, but definitely no more than five times.
"That depends on your ability to control the situation. If you think you've done all you can, then don't say anything more. After all, he's the one who's offended, not you. But if you still have something serious to say and don't want him to talk nonsense here, you can use some moral blackmail."
"Moral kidnapping?"
"Yes, it's like 'so and so has already been done, let's not talk about that anymore'. If the other party knows what's good for him, they will usually say 'I'm doing this for his own good' and the matter will be over."
"What if you don't know what's interesting?"
"Then you have to take some extreme measures. If you have a clear conscience, then you should praise him as much as possible to attract hatred. You must praise him until those who are dissatisfied with you completely hate him."
"If you don't have such a big grudge against him, you can praise him openly but criticize him secretly to make him feel bad, for example, 'You did a really great job back then, and the scene was so big that so-and-so and I cleaned up the mess for you for several months!'"
Batman nodded vigorously. He was capable of this. What he was best at was digging up old scores. There was no old score in the Justice League that he could not dig up.
Then Schiller went on to say: "When you need an excuse to refuse something, follow three principles: first, the difficulty is not caused by you, second, it is not your subjective will to succumb to the difficulty, and third, you also feel very uncomfortable about it."
"Specifically, never use excuses like you're busy, because you're still the main person busy. If you do it too many times, people will wonder, why are you so busy?"
"Even if you are really too busy to be there, you should put it another way, such as your boss is too unkind and you just can't get away, in which case the boss becomes the subject, or your subordinate made a mistake and you have to stay to make up for it, in which case the subordinate becomes the subject."
"Then you have to emphasize that what happened at your important moment was not my subjective intention, and it was not even caused by me at all. It was all because of the injustice of God and the bad luck of fate."
"For example, when you bring this up later, you can lament that if you had studied harder in college, you would have been able to get into a better company and wouldn't have been exploited like this. Or if you had seen through your boss and subordinates earlier, you wouldn't have made these mistakes and would never have missed out on the wonderful moments."
"In short, it's just about expressing yourself. Not going is not what you want."
"Then the next step is to develop your emotions, to express how sorry you are, how sad you are, and how heartbroken you are. Not attending this event has become a permanent hole in your life, and no matter how much you make up for it later, you will remember it for the rest of your life."
"Isn't this too much?" Batman said.
"Don't be so blunt." Schiller smiled and said, "You can polish it up or mix it in with a lot of other things, and mention it occasionally when you remember it. This process can even last for several months or even years, or even as soon as you see him, you can start mentioning it, and even mention it until he feels guilty."
"Too dark," Batman commented.
"Okay, one last point." Schiller drank the wine in the glass and said, "If someone mentions you and slanders you when you are not around, don't explain or refute, or even slander him in return, but help him explain."
Batman narrowed his eyes and said, "Like?"
"Suppose A said you were too unsympathetic when you were not around, that you did not help B when he was in trouble, and that he really misjudged you, and another person relayed this to you."
"Then you definitely shouldn't say, 'I'm not that kind of person. When C, D, and E were in trouble, I helped them with all my heart.' Also, don't say, 'A is talking nonsense,' or 'A's words can't be trusted at all.'"
"So……"
"What you're going to say is, 'Actually, I always think that excessive sympathy is not a good thing. A has suffered losses before. It was obviously not a very clever scam, but he was fooled because of his excessive sympathy and almost hurt C, D, and E. Of course, this is my personal opinion. A is just too kind and he just wants to help others.'"
Schiller spread his hands and said, "Based on the principle that whoever explains is at a disadvantage, although he is not here, you can't force him to explain, but you can help him explain, and precisely because he is not here, the right to explain is in your hands."
“But I think the other party will hear it, right?”
"It doesn't matter whether you can hear it or not. What matters is your reaction. If you subconsciously defend yourself, the other party will only think you are weak and can be bullied. If you subconsciously slander others, the other party will also find your words malicious."
"But if you act like you're doing good for others, even if they see that you have bad intentions, they won't be able to see through you."
"You just need to remember that people who spread bad things about others are losers who cannot achieve positive social suppression, so they use other people's mouths to stimulate you."
"If he had the guts to expose you head-on, the words he said to discredit you would not start with 'I heard someone say that before'. Successful people have a million ways to make you speechless and embarrassed."
"Like you?"
"I'll approach it more gently." Schiller looked at the TV, and his words were self-evident.
"A lot of times I think I know this." Batman leaned back on the sofa and said, "In the books I read, when I face those people in the business world, I actually know this."
"But when you become Batman, many things become difficult to say." Schiller nodded and said, "In other words, when you become your true self and regard the members of the Justice League as your true friends, you will feel that if you use tricks, then the friendship you get will not be true, right?"
"But I think that in this world, apart from maternal love fostered by human hormones, there is no other emotion that does not require external forces to maintain. Whether it is earth-shattering love, everlasting friendship, or even family ties maintained by blood, they all require skills to manage."
"You feel that some people don't need any skills to win the sincerity of others. Maybe it's just because his skills are more hidden and more natural, or he is born with these skills. His family and the environment he grew up in made the skills of maintaining relationships his instinct, so he behaves effortlessly and easily."
"But as the saying goes, the early bird catches the worm. Not everyone is so lucky. If you can't do it naturally, at least you have to try. Even if you can't get deep love, it's worth it if you can get some shallow happiness."
"As for the scale..." Schiller fumbled with the cup and said, "If the satisfaction of your loneliness overcomes the exhaustion of using skills, then it proves to be worth it. If on the contrary, you would rather enjoy loneliness than greet someone with a smile, then use your Batman's signature skills."
"what is that?"
"Annoying."
"what?"
"I mean, make him a clown if you can."
Another trick